Sunday, October 24, 2010
Non-members
As many of you know I'm a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints and single...so what do you think about dating outside the church? I've never really done it but I'm starting to think maybe I should. The reason I say this (or rather write it) is because a lot of LDS guys who are worthwhile are either married or not into me and those who are into me, I'm into them, a curse really. So, I'm thinking why not expand to other denominations? I mean there are a lot of great non-lds guys out there who will treat me well and actually take me out on a date...:) So...what do you think...to date or not date non-LDS guys, that is the question.
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Your ultimate goal is to be married in the temple, with that said my feelings are, no you should not limit yourself. However I do think if dating non-lds you should look for someone who has the same standards you do as well as religious goals and views (like they understand were you are coming from). Being LDS is more then just going to church on Sunday and lets face it, it can be time consuming but it is who you are and whoever you date should fully understand that (I mean if you were to get serious). I love you. You really are amazing.
i feel the same way nila. especially in a place were there is only five LDS guys and i don't click with any of them. I like and agree with Maleina. I also think that it's important to involve the Lord in it. He knows who is best for us, and how it's going to be with them. SO when we do meet that guy, be he LDS or not, we will know that it's the right time, right dude, and all that..... i love you, i'm right there with you. :)
I dated a non-LDS guy with similar standards to mine and it turned into a wonderful missionary experience...he joined the church and we got married in the temple and hopefully we'll live "happily ever after." I say, go for it! Just be careful in who you choose to go out with.
I have had friends pose the "should I date NMs?" question to me and what they have really wanted to know is "can I give up being a good girl, so I can get some action/be with someone that shows interest in me that doesn't share my values/because God hasn't given me what I wanted so I have to go get it myself, etc. etc.
I'm pretty sure that's not what you mean, right?
;)
On to my answer: No, I don't think dating NMs in and of itself is a "bad" thing at all!
You have to be firm in your standards and be up front about what's really important to you right from the get go, whether the guy is LDS or not (because, let's face it, there are LOT of LDS RMs that don't have any direction, ambition, or skillz in the dating dept. Can I get an amen? lol.)
Once you have established that, your example will do a LOT to build or break the guy's budding testimony-assuming he's a NM.
So make sure your footing is secure as far as that goes and enjoy the journey. The key, as mentioned by your other friends is to include the Lord and make sure you're getting a clear signal when you receive guidance.
Well...lol. That's all I've got to say. I love you no matter what!!!
:)
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